Where is your key? 鑰匙在那裡

No matter where we are, either environment, people, events, or things sometimes make our emotions fluctuate, But don't forget! Don't get upset too long by one sentence uttered by another person.

Where is your key?

A famous writer, Sydney Harries, and his friend went to buy newspapers from a newspaper stand, His friend politely said thanks to the seller, But the seller only responded with a cold face, not saying a word. 'This fellow has a very bad attitude, hasn't he?' Harries asked as they continued to walk forward.

'He is like this every evening', the friend replied. So why are you still so polite to him? Harries asked. 'Why should I allow him to determine my own behaviour?' replied his friend. 'A mature person will always hold on to his own Key of Happiness, he does not depend on others to make him happy, instead he is able to give happiness and blessings to others. Every man has a 'Key of Happiness' in his own heart, but has often unconsciously given that key to be under others' control.

A lady complained: 'I live very unhappily, because my husband often has to be out of town for his job', she has put her key of happiness to her husband's hands.

A Mom said: 'My disobedient child makes me very mad', she has put her key to her child's hands.

A man may say: 'My boss does not appreciate me, thus I feel so depressed', he has put his key of happiness to the hands of his boss.

The mother-in-law said: 'My daughter-in-law does not practice filial piety to me, I really have a bad life!'

The young man came out from a stationery shop, saying: 'That shop owner has a very bad attitude, I feel so mad'.

All these people have made th same decision, and that is to allow other people to control their own emotions.

When we allow others to control our emotions, we will feel we are the victim, and are helpless to face our own situations, complaints and anger would be our only choice. We begin to blame others, and convey the following message:

'All the pain that I am suffering is created by you, you should be responsible for all my pains.' At that time, we give a very heavy responsibility to those around us, and demand them to make us happy.

It seems we admit that we have no way to take control of ourselves, and thus pitifully can only allow others to control us. This person would make others run away from him, or to be afraid of him. But a mature person would hold on to his own Key of Happiness, he does not expect others to make him happy, on the contrary, he is able to give happiness and blessings to others, His emotions are stable, he is responsible for his own life, it is an enjoyment, a freedom from pressures, to be together with him. Where is your key? In others' hands? Make haste to get it back!

The opposite of love is not hate, but is indifference and no caring. Love changes everything. No matter whether life is sweet or bitter.


這篇文章希望你能體會到它的涵意。
其實我們身處的地方，不論是環境，人，事，物都很容易影響我們的情緒起伏，可是千萬別忘了！不要因為他人的一句話，而在意太久哦！

鑰匙在那裡

從箸名專欄作家哈理斯(Sydney Harries)和朋友在報攤上買報紙，那朋友禮貌地對報販說了聲謝謝，但報攤卻冷口冷臉，沒發一言。'這傢伙態度很差，是不是？'他們繼續前行時，哈理斯問道。

'他每天晚上都是這樣的。'朋友說。

'那麼你為什麼還是對他那麼客氣？'哈理斯問他。朋友答道：'為什麼我要讓他決定我的行為？'一個成熟的人握住自己的快樂鑰匙，他不期待別人使他快樂，反而能將快樂與幸福帶給別人。每人心中都有把'快樂的鑰匙'，
但我們卻常在不知不覺中把它交給別人掌管。　

一位女士抱怨道：'我活得很不快樂，因為先生常出差不在家。' 他把快樂的鑰匙放在先生手裡。

一位媽媽說：'我的孩子不聽話，叫我很生氣！' 她把鑰匙交在孩子手裡。

男人可能說：'上司不賞識我，所以我情緒低落。' 這把快樂鑰匙又被塞在老闆手裡。

婆婆說；'我的媳婦不孝順，我真命苦！'

年輕人從文具店走出來說：'那位老闆服務態度惡劣，把我氣炸了！'

這些人都做了相同的決定，就是讓別人來控制他的心情。當我們容許別人掌握我們的情緒時，我們便覺得自己是受害者，對現況無能為力，抱怨與忿怒成為我們唯一的選擇。我們開始怪罪他人，並且傳達一個訊息：

'我這樣痛苦，都是你造成的，你要為我的痛苦負責！'此時我們就把一重大的責任托給週圍的人，即要求他們使我們快樂。我們似乎承認自己無法掌握自己，只能可憐的任人擺佈。這樣的人使別人不喜歡親近，甚至望而生畏。但一個成熟的人握住自己快樂的鑰匙，他不期待別人使他快樂，反而能將快樂與幸福帶給別人。他的情緒穩定，為自己負責，和他在一起是種享受，而不是壓力。

你的鑰匙在那裡？在別人手裡嗎？快去把它拿回來吧！愛的反面不是仇恨，而是漠視而不關心。不管人生是甚麼味道甜的吃、苦也吃